As a young wife, who just moved clear across the US with her husband and 4 month baby in tow, my husband became my “everything.” He was my best friend, my lover, my social interaction, my conversationalist, etc…. Do you see where this is going? I drove him crazy!
We started out on a rocky slope to begin with, we were young not knowing what we were doing, but I expected him to have all the answers. I mean, if my Dad was there he would have all the answers, why couldn’t my husband? It took hitting rock bottom, pushing my husband away because I was driving him crazy and putting a lot of pressure on him to be “my everything.”
Oh he loved me very much, but he knew he could not live up to the expectations I put on him. And being a very strong “Daddy’s girl” my husband had some huge shoes to fill. I expected manly man to just step in as my security. Little did I know or even realize he was just as freaked out as I was about our new life together. Becoming parents right at the beginning of our marriage made our heads spin and threw any plans we had out the window.
It took taking away everything I relied on, and my husband pulling away emotionally, to realize I need to be turning to God. God needed to be, and wanted to be my everything. During the years, through the good times and really bad times, we slowly learned that our joy came when both of our eyes were on Christ instead of each other. I could not expect my husband to be the person God was. As soon as we got our eyes off our problems and on to Christ, Christ began to work things out. Oh, it was not an easy process, and we are still a work in progress, but the journey has brought us more joy and peace than we had 13 years ago, when we both said, “I Do.”
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