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Jul 31 2008

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Put your feet up - Doctor’s orders.

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RelaxationMany of us dream about having a day where we put our feet up and relax. When life is spinning out of control that is all you can think about, when is it going to stop? Recently I had some out-patient surgery that was suppose to be a “no big deal,” turn into a medium big deal. I am fine, but I was instructed to relax, not lift anything, and put my feet up.

Dreaming about something and then actually getting what you want is sometimes two different things. Believe me I enjoyed not having to go to work and I enjoy sleeping whenever I wanted, but I was still unsettled. As I sat on my couch all day long, I thought of the dishes that needed to be done or the laundry that should be cleaned or rooms that need to be picked up. I would feel fine when I was obeying the Doctors orders – laying still and relaxing. But despite those instructions I still tried to get up and load the dishwasher or pick up a few things and what I got were shooting pains reminding me I was not following directions.

How many times do we do that when we are following God’s will? I am not saying life is easy when we are in God’s will, but we have peace no matter what is going on around us. When we step out on our own, that is when the chaos begins to get to us and we can not understand why we feel so stressed all the time. Remember Peter walking on water, it was not until he took his eyes off the Lord that he realized waves crashing all around him.

So I sit here and let my body heal and learn to relax knowing that everything can get done another day. The Lord knows ‘being still’ is something I need more practice with.

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Post Script: I have learned if you just sit still and put your feet up you get the blessing of talking on the phone to two bloggers that you have never talked to in real life before. WHAT A BLESSING!

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PSS: And if you sit REALLY still and don’t move, then these just might arrive at your door and totally surprise you. I am totally speechless, THANK YOU.

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Jul 31 2008

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Reader

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If you are getting tons of items in your reader from my site and it is related to delicious, I apologize. I am not sure what I am doing and I really don’t know how to fix it yet. I really should be blonde some days. Anyways, apologize for any inconvenience.

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Jul 29 2008

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The gauntlet has been thrown…

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My husband and I were the first couple on both sides of the family to have children. Our siblings were either still in high school or beginning college. When our kids began celebrating birthdays one Auntie (not mentioning names here) thought it would be funny to buy the loudest, most obnoxious toys around. Let’s see the first thing that comes to mind is a big Star Wars alarm clock that was VERY LOUD. Not to mention I did not know how to TURN IT OFF!

It would for some unknown reason go off in the middle of the night, so I would awake suddenly to the sound of a star ship taking off accompanied by LOUD laser sounds. The only way to turn it off was to rip the batteries out of it.

By morning a son would want to “play” with it (because obviously he slept through the whole Incom T-65 X-Wing Space Superiority Fighter invasion), because you know a 3 year old really knows what to do with an alarm clock so I would foolishly place the batteries back in so he could listen to the cool sounds of nails on a chalk board an X-Wing taking off. Hey I was a young Mom learning. And I guess the noise only bothered ME because the rest of the males in this household could sleep through the late night X-Wing invasion!

Anyways back to what I was saying, these oh so young Aunties thought this was funny. There was another Auntie who thought it would be FUN to send Birthday Boy TONS OF CANDY! Even after we screamed ‘what where you thinking’ kindly mentioned that Birthday Boy is young and ONE piece of candy would keep him hyper for a week! “Thank you for his toy, but the candy is not necessary…REALLY.”

And remember I said I was YOUNG so I did the foolish thing like open the box in FONT of my son so once the candy was spied, he made a mental count of how many piece there were and how many he has eaten. (should be an accountant).

Now my boys are older and when they are hyper from candy I can send them out to play and tell them not to return until they are dead-dog-tired. Then I go on my merry way ignoring the fact they are running wild around the neighborhood(in reality I have them in my line of site, but OUTSIDE). I can now handle (for the most part on rare occasions) my boys pigging out on candy.

In fact our tradition for Halloween is the very next day I empty their bags on the kitchen table and tell them to eat themselves sick. I figure if it makes them sick, they won’t want it as much (this has mostly worked). The remaining candy is tossed by the end of the week. (just a side note, I do not recommend this due to the lack of nutritional value. I am not a nutritionist and I don’t play one on TV either. Kay?)

But you know what they say about PAYBACK?

IT IS FUN!

(hey what did you think I was going to say?)

Now don’t tell, but this is just a SMALL sample of what my 2 year old niece will be receiving. (minus the candle =) This Auntie does not read my blog, so I can share it y’all.

Ah yes, payback is fun. This is how we “older” Auntie’s get our entertainment.

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Jul 27 2008

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Laurel

And the count down begins…

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I will find myself surrounded by stinky uniforms and pads. Three ravenous beings will roam my kitchen because nothing will seem to fill them up. And I will see my sons barely and my husband even less. Friday is the beginning of

FOOTBALL


I have not written much during the summer, because well summer time is busy! I found myself caught up with writing certain posts because I “had” to (mind you the pressure was put on only by myself), so I needed to step back and only write because I wanted to, not because I felt obligated to. Does this make any sense?

I forgot why I began blogging in the first place and that was so I had an outlet to complain journal my “going on’s” so my relatives on the other side of the US can check in and also to share Christ with others. I say all that to first explain why I have not been participating in certain posts (ex. Thankful Thursday, PhotoHunt, etc.). I am going to participate in them still, WHEN I HAVE TIME but I have freed myself from feeling like I need to participate. And yes my readership has gone down because of that, but you know what I AM OK WITH THAT!

My first love right now is Laced With Grace (even though I only write once a month) and Christian Women Online. Besides that I am just letting the Lord lead, I am excited to see what doors he may open or close.

So for right now, this little ‘ol blog is going back to just ramblings of a brain fried Mom of three teenage boys who loves Jesus, who is telling herself to write here only when she has time, and is an avid reader who loves to share good books with her visitors.

Do you know when I sat down to write this post, this is not what I was going to write about at all, but I guess this is what has been on my heart.

Anyways back to my original thought…..the count down begins, Pop Warner Football begins Friday and I once again become a football widow. I say that to warn you of my upcoming whining updates on football.

But they do look studly, huh?

*Top Football Photo by Nate

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Jul 24 2008

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Please Keep Greg Laurie’s family in your prayers….

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Greg Laurie is a Pastor for Harvest Ministries. His son was killed in a car accident. Please keep them in your prayers.

The story is here http://www.harvest.org/

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Jul 24 2008

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Laurel

My ramblings, organized.

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I have seen this on several blogs and enjoyed reading the entries so much I thought I would give it a try.

Outside my window… the clouds are overcast and the trees are very green. Last week we got a lot of rain.


I am thinking… that I am not ready for football to begin again. My boys are gearing up and I am doing tons of paper work to get them ready.


I am thankful for… the time I spent with my parents the last week and half. We had a great time visiting Magic Kingdom, Mom and I did some damage at an outlet mall, and Dad saw my boys win a basketball game. It was a good time had by all, but I think my sister is glad to have them back home to help with her new baby.


From the kitchen… I need to do some grocery shopping. The natives are beginning to complain there is nothing to eat. I think I will go tonight during basketball practice.


I am creating… a cover sheet for something. Is that vague enough for you =) Seriously, my first thought is I hope I am creating peace in the midst of boy chaos.


I am going… to read tonight and relax, after grocery shopping that is.


I am wearing… a new Chico’s shirt and some blue comfortable slacks.


I am reading… well I just finished a good book called “The SweetGum Knit Lit Society” by Beth Pattillo and I just began “Diary of a Teenage Girl” by Melody Carlson.


I am hoping… to get time to do some digital scrapbooking this weekend. I have not had the time lately.


I am hearing… quiet for the first time today, subject to change any second by a boy bursting through my front door along with neighbor kids.


Around the house… my dog is leaving little toy shreddings. I need to buy him a new toy, tired of vacuuming.


One of my favorite things… is this new coffee blend I bought called “Pumpkin Pecan” Coffee by Harry & David. It is yummy. Also I bought these Fun Flops, they ROCK!


A few plans for the rest of the week…. is to relax, sign boys up for the football this weekend, head over to my in-laws to swim possibly.


Here is a picture I am sharing with you… (a proud Mom and her boys)

Mom and her boys

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Jul 19 2008

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Winner of Gary Chapman’s book “Love As a Way of Life”

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Carolynn!

I will be emailing you and will need your snail mail of where to send your book. I hope you enjoy it, I know I have!

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Jul 17 2008

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Rest in peace. Our prayers are with your family.

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One thing you might not know about me is that I am a news junkie. I read news, watch news, ect. Tony Snow was one of my favorites. I want to share an article that he wrote for Christianity Today back in 2007. Today he was laid to rest, but I know I will see him again one day in heaven.
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snowCancer’s Unexpected Blessings
When you enter the Valley of the Shadow of Death, things change.
By Tony Snow
Christianity Today
July 20, 2007

Blessings arrive in unexpected packages—in my case, cancer.

Those of us with potentially fatal diseases—and there are millions in America today—find ourselves in the odd position of coping with our mortality while trying to fathom God’s will. Although it would be the height of presumption to declare with confidence What It All Means, Scripture provides powerful hints and consolations.

The first is that we shouldn’t spend too much time trying to answer the why questions: Why me? Why must people suffer? Why can’t someone else get sick? We can’t answer such things, and the questions themselves often are designed more to express our anguish than to solicit an answer.

I don’t know why I have cancer, and I don’t much care. It is what it is—a plain and indisputable fact. Yet even while staring into a mirror darkly, great and stunning truths begin to take shape. Our maladies define a central feature of our existence: We are fallen. We are imperfect. Our bodies give out.

But despite this—because of it—God offers the possibility of salvation and grace. We don’t know how the narrative of our lives will end, but we get to choose how to use the interval between now and the moment we meet our Creator face-to-face.

Second, we need to get past the anxiety. The mere thought of dying can send adrenaline flooding through your system. A dizzy, unfocused panic seizes you. Your heart thumps; your head swims. You think of nothingness and swoon. You fear partings; you worry about the impact on family and friends. You fidget and get nowhere.

To regain footing, remember that we were born not into death, but into life—and that the journey continues after we have finished our days on this earth. We accept this on faith, but that faith is nourished by a conviction that stirs even within many nonbelieving hearts—an intuition that the gift of life, once given, cannot be taken away. Those who have been stricken enjoy the special privilege of being able to fight with their might, main, and faith to live—fully, richly, exuberantly—no matter how their days may be numbered.

Third, we can open our eyes and hearts. God relishes surprise. We want lives of simple, predictable ease—smooth, even trails as far as the eye can see—but God likes to go off-road. He provokes us with twists and turns. He places us in predicaments that seem to defy our endurance and comprehension—and yet don’t. By his love and grace, we persevere. The challenges that make our hearts leap and stomachs churn invariably strengthen our faith and grant measures of wisdom and joy we would not experience otherwise.

‘You Have Been Called’

Picture yourself in a hospital bed. The fog of anesthesia has begun to wear away. A doctor stands at your feet; a loved one holds your hand at the side. “It’s cancer,” the healer announces.
The natural reaction is to turn to God and ask him to serve as a cosmic Santa. “Dear God, make it all go away. Make everything simpler.” But another voice whispers: “You have been called.”

Your quandary has drawn you closer to God, closer to those you love, closer to the issues that matter—and has dragged into insignificance the banal concerns that occupy our “normal time.”
There’s another kind of response, although usually short-lived—an inexplicable shudder of excitement, as if a clarifying moment of calamity has swept away everything trivial and tinny, and placed before us the challenge of important questions.

The moment you enter the Valley of the Shadow of Death, things change. You discover that Christianity is not something doughy, passive, pious, and soft. Faith may be the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. But it also draws you into a world shorn of fearful caution. The life of belief teems with thrills, boldness, danger, shocks, reversals, triumphs, and epiphanies. Think of Paul, traipsing though the known world and contemplating trips to what must have seemed the antipodes (Spain), shaking the dust from his sandals, worrying not about the morrow, but only about the moment.

There’s nothing wilder than a life of humble virtue—for it is through selflessness and service that God wrings from our bodies and spirits the most we ever could give, the most we ever could offer, and the most we ever could do.

Finally, we can let love change everything. When Jesus was faced with the prospect of crucifixion, he grieved not for himself, but for us. He cried for Jerusalem before entering the holy city. From the Cross, he took on the cumulative burden of human sin and weakness, and begged for forgiveness on our behalf.

We get repeated chances to learn that life is not about us—that we acquire purpose and satisfaction by sharing in God’s love for others. Sickness gets us partway there. It reminds us of our limitations and dependence. But it also gives us a chance to serve the healthy. A minister friend of mine observes that people suffering grave afflictions often acquire the faith of two people, while loved ones accept the burden of two people’s worries and fears.

Learning How to Live

Most of us have watched friends as they drifted toward God’s arms not with resignation, but with peace and hope. In so doing, they have taught us not how to die, but how to live. They have emulated Christ by transmitting the power and authority of love.

I sat by my best friend’s bedside a few years ago as a wasting cancer took him away. He kept at his table a worn Bible and a 1928 edition of the Book of Common Prayer. A shattering grief disabled his family, many of his old friends, and at least one priest. Here was a humble and very good guy, someone who apologized when he winced with pain because he thought it made his guest uncomfortable. He retained his equanimity and good humor literally until his last conscious moment. “I’m going to try to beat [this cancer],” he told me several months before he died. “But if I don’t, I’ll see you on the other side.”

His gift was to remind everyone around him that even though God doesn’t promise us tomorrow, he does promise us eternity—filled with life and love we cannot comprehend—and that one can in the throes of sickness point the rest of us toward timeless truths that will help us weather future storms.

Through such trials, God bids us to choose: Do we believe, or do we not? Will we be bold enough to love, daring enough to serve, humble enough to submit, and strong enough to acknowledge our limitations? Can we surrender our concern in things that don’t matter so that we might devote our remaining days to things that do?

When our faith flags, he throws reminders in our way. Think of the prayer warriors in our midst. They change things, and those of us who have been on the receiving end of their petitions and intercessions know it.

It is hard to describe, but there are times when suddenly the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, and you feel a surge of the Spirit. Somehow you just know: Others have chosen, when talking to the Author of all creation, to lift us up—to speak of us!

This is love of a very special order. But so is the ability to sit back and appreciate the wonder of every created thing. The mere thought of death somehow makes every blessing vivid, every happiness more luminous and intense. We may not know how our contest with sickness will end, but we have felt the ineluctable touch of God.

What is man that Thou art mindful of him? We don’t know much, but we know this: No matter where we are, no matter what we do, no matter how bleak or frightening our prospects, each and every one of us, each and every day, lies in the same safe and impregnable place—in the hollow of God’s hand.

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Jul 15 2008

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Come visit me over here..

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Busy making dinner, heading to the grocery store for your last minute items.
Running into school to pick up your child, you have a meeting in 30 mins.
Waiting in line to purchase your fast food.
Family gathering with many non-Christians around you.

I heard it said, “every conversation you have, you have the opportunity to turn it towards God.” CLICK HERE TO READ THE REST…

(also don’t forget I am offering a free book below)

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Jul 14 2008

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“Love As a Way of Life” by Gary Chapman (and a giveaway)

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image002Gary Chapman is the author of twenty-five books, including the New York Times bestseller The Five Love Languages, with more than 4 million copies in print. His daily radio program, A Love Language Minute, is broadcast on more than 100 stations nationwide. Chapman, a graduate of Moody Bible Institute, Wheaton College, Wake-Forest University, and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, serves on the pastoral staff at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.








loveasawayFor decades Dr. Gary Chapman’s best-selling books have shown readers how to speak the “love language” of those they care about. Now he digs even deeper to uncover the foundations of what it means to cultivate a lifestyle of love and how doing so leads to satisfaction and success in every area of life.

Mr. Chapman is here today to share with us about his new book “Love As A Way of Life.” At the end of this interview you will be given a chance to win a copy of Gary Chapman’s new book.

1. Describe some of the everyday situations that can be changed if a person has a foundation of love.

When love becomes the focus of ones life it will change every encounter we have with people. In the family, the husband is thinking, “what can I do before I leave for work that would be helpful for my wife?” Such thinking may lead him to take the trash out, put his breakfast plates in the dishwasher or feed the baby while his wife takes a shower.

In the workplace, employees are asking, “on my break, what might I do that would help someone else?” They will also make time to listen to a co-worker who seems to be having a hard time with a personal issue.

At the bank, post office, or cafeteria, the lover will look people in the eye and smile, perhaps opening the door to a conversation. They will express interest in what is going on in the lives of those they encounter.

The focus is not on “it’s all about me.” But, rather on “It is all about others.”

2. What is the take-away message of Love as a Way of Life?

Love as a Way of Life is designed to help the person who sincerely wants to make a positive impact in the world. I believe that is ‘most of us.’ Our biggest problem is that we don’t know how and we keep getting tripped up by our own selfish ambitions. The purpose of the book is to help us break free from the prison of selfishness and come to experience the satisfaction of truly loving others as a way of life. It is little acts of love that build up to a lifestyle of service.

3. Why do you need a foundation of love before you start figuring out our love languages?

The five love languages give information on the most effective way to express love in a meaningful way to a particular person. But, if you are not a loving person – don’t have the heart or will to focus on others – the information is of little value. Most of us must make a conscious change of focus from self to others if we are going to genuinely, and consistently enrich the lives of others. Love as a Way of Life is designed to help people make that change.

4. When did you realize the need for this book?

I first recognized the need for Love as a Way of Life when in a counseling session a husband said to me, “I’ll tell you right now, if it is going to take my washing dishes, and doing the laundry for my wife to feel loved, you can forget that.” I had just explained to him the concept of the five love languages and that his wife’s primary love language was ‘acts of service’ and that these acts would deeply communicate his love to her. I realized that he lacked the will to meet his wife’s need for love. He was locked into his own perception of what his role was to be and it did not include washing dishes and doing laundry. I knew at that moment that there was something more foundational than simply knowing a person’s love language.

5. What are the seven characteristics of lasting love?

I view love not as a single entity, but as a cluster of traits, which if developed will enhance all of life. These traits are:

Kindness: discovering the joy of helping others

Patience: accepting the imperfections of others

Forgiveness: finding freedom from the grip of anger

Courtesy: treating others as friends

Humility: stepping down so someone else can step up

Generosity: giving your time, money, and abilities to others

Honesty: caring enough to tell the truth

6. Why do you think it’s so hard for people to embrace these characteristics?

All of us have some of these characteristics to some degree. Most people see love as being better than hate. But most of us are comfortable to live somewhere between love and hate in a lifestyle that is fundamentally focused on self. We feel good when we are making money, accumulating things, gaining status, but in time these things do not ultimately satisfy what I call the ‘true self’. The true self longs to make the world a better place to live. To do something to help those less fortunate than we.

However, we all suffer from the malady of being ego-centric. I call this the ‘false self’. It is that part of man that pulls him to focus on self-preservation and a self-centered lifestyle. This is not all bad. Indeed we must meet our own physical and emotional needs in order to continue life. It is when we never get beyond this self focus, that life becomes a ‘dog eat dog’ world where everyone is out for self even at the expense of others. Such a life never brings long-term satisfaction. However it is often later in life that people discover the emptiness of selfish living. I’m hoping that Love as a Way of Life will help people discover the satisfaction of developing the ‘true self’ earlier in life.

Convinced that in a world of constant conflict people desperately need authentic love, Chapman paints a compelling vision of how life can be richer and relationships more satisfying for anyone who practices Love As a Way of Life.


This book is very informative and easy to read. Like Mr. Chapman has mentioned you need this foundation before you move on to implementing the five love language. If you would like to win a copy of Gary Chapman’s new book Love As a Way of Life please leave me a comment below. I will select a winner after Friday the 18th.

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